How To Use Understanding As A Tool For Handling Stressors

Today’s post continues with Antonovsky’s concept Sense of Coherence that focuses on handling stressors and how health can be increased (see link to Mittelmark et al in earlier posts for research in this field). What determines whether stress will be harmful or not is whether or not the stress violates our sense of coherence. This […]

More About How To Strengthen Personal Resources For Handling Challenges In Life

Today’s post continues with Antonovsky’s concept Sense of Coherence that focuses on handling stressors and how health can be increased (see link to Mittelmark, Burk, Daniel & Urke in earlier posts for a revision of theories and research in this field). What determines whether stress will be harmful or not is whether or not the […]

About Asking Others As A Way To Handle Problematic & Anxiety Provoking Thoughts

There are many anxiety inducing patterns often called cognitive distortions or thought traps. These are ways of thinking that seem true but are in fact not reasonable, realistic or relevant to the situation. Noticing when we are using thought traps and countering them is an important part of traditional CBT-exercises that also can reduce symptoms […]

About The Importance Of Being Read For Developing The Ability To Calm Own Emotions

Secure relationship patterns and the ability to take care of and calm one’s emotions are interconnected. The foundation of this connection is made based on childhood experiences with trusted ones, including parents. There is research that emphasizes the importance of emotional communication. In addition to the physical closeness of the parent, a child needs the […]

What Parents Should Avoid To Get Emotionally Stable Children

Secure relationship patterns and the ability to take care of and calm one’s emotions are interconnected. The foundation of this connection is made based on childhood experiences with trusted ones, including and mainly interactions with care givers. There are several risk behaviours in parenting to be avoided if the child shall have a chance of […]

How To Address Thought Traps In Cognitive Therapy

There are many anxiety inducing patterns often called cognitive distortions or thought traps. These are ways of thinking that seem true but are in fact not reasonable, realistic or relevant to the situation. Noticing when we are using thought traps and countering them is an important part of traditional CBT-exercises that also can reduce symptoms […]

Common Mistakes To Be Avoided By Parents In Order To Get Emotionally Secure Children

Today’s post continues with the importance of how parents interact with their child for the development of inner security, self-esteem, expectations on others, relationship patterns and also the ability to calm intensive emotions. Research over decades has identified 4 basic types of relationship patterns: Secure where the child is able to depend on the caregiver […]

How Sensitive Parenting Impacts Self-worth, Trust & Ability To Calm Emotions

Earlier posts have been about how the interaction between a child and caretakers creates internal working models for relationships that tend to be repeated in other close relationships and also colors the child’s basic attitude to others and also to self. This impacts in turn the foundation of self-esteem, self-worth, trust in others as well […]

The Actual Behaviour Parents Must Do To Create A Sound Self-esteem & Emotional System In A Child

Earlier posts have been about how the interaction between a child and caretakers creates internal working models for relationships that tend to be repeated in other close relationships and also colors the child’s basic attitude to others and also to self. Today’s post continues with the development and importance of these inner working models. A […]