Why Optimists Can Achieve More

This post “Increase your self-esteem by listing your achievements this year” focuses on that New year’s eve is coming up. Before diving into the possible changes you potentially would like to make to your life and new directions you would like to explore, I suggest you reflect over your achievements so far. Increase your…
We need both self-confidence and self-esteem since they are interrelated. Self-confidence, how we feel about our abilities, is possible to influence by doing activities that we like and where it is possible to measure progress in feelings/appraisal, concrete milestones etc. Having a habit of trying new things and practice being non-judgmental, supportive when learning are…
Last week we started with the life wheel, an illustrative tool used in coaching to identify the areas in your life you would like to change, your dimensions, as well as a list of 10 possible dimensions you could consider to be drawn on a dartboard-like illustration with 10 circle areas, see illustration. The scale…
Earlier posts have been about how the interaction with a child and caretakers creates internal working models for relationships that tends to be repeated in other close relationships and also colors the child’s basic attitude to others and also to the self. The quality and resulting patterns of these models are also believed to affect…
A common first step in traditional CBT is to be aware of how you are doing/the mental status of your life at that moment, i.e. how you are feeling at a given time. If you want to improve your ability to be aware of this, you can try this exercise: Try for one week to…
This post “Increase your self-esteem by talking back to your inner critic” continues with how you can increase your self-esteem by listening to your feelings and heal self-destructive shame. Increase your self-esteem by talking back to your inner critic: One way of reducing self-critical shame is to become more self-compassionate. This includes identifying the…