Analysing critical & important events through these questions to get new insights (1 minute read)

Time for celebration, rest and peaceful self-supportive reflection. Today’s post continues with the importance of taking the time to reflect and increase well-being through writing a diary. Another way of enhancing your reflections, which you then can use in honouring yourself, but also in planning what you would like to change and develop in your life, is analysing critical or important incidents.

This exercise, which is adapted from Hatcher (1996) focuses on analysing an important event that occurred during your week. By answering these questions, you will strengthen your ability to mentalise yourself = to consider your thoughts, emotions and reactions as well as articulate concrete actions that you plan to take or dimensions you would like to consider in the future:


1) Describe a significant event that occurred during the last week.

Why was this significant to you? How?

What underlying issues surfaced as a result of this experience?

How will this incident influence your future behaviour?  


2) Describe an incident or situation that created a dilemma for you this last week in terms of what to say or do.

What is the first thing you thought of to say or do?


Think of three other actions you might have taken.

Which of these seems best to you now and why do you think this is the best response?  

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