An Exercise About Personal Values in Acceptance & ACT

Acceptance and commitment-therapy, ACT, is one of two major parallel developments from the mindfulness movement. The aim of the exercises is to stop avoiding, denying and struggling with inner emotions and uncomfortable thoughts, but instead accept these as appropriate responses to certain, often unavoidable, situations. ACT focuses on that we have to make necessary changes […]

Performance-driven Self-Esteem As A Risk Factor For Servere Stress Problems

Today’s post is about the link between exhaustion and performance drive/performance driven self-esteem. As pointed out earlier, there are many reasons why we humans, and perhaps particularly exhausted persons, easily become too active in everyday life. This can delay the healing process and prolong the suffering for the stress-injured. One of these reasons is the […]

More Ideas About How To Develop Skills Fast When Having High Will But Low Skills

In the last posts I have introduced Stephen Covey’s skill-will matrix that has been extremely helpful both for individual change and leadership development programs. Today I will continue with ideas for handling the inspirational situation when one has Low skill + High will. In this situation there is sufficient motivation. Having the possibilities to observe others […]

What To Develop During The First 4 Life Stages To Avoid Life Crisis

Last week I summarized Erikson’s 8 stages of development over the lifespan. Each stage poses new challenges that have to be resolved to progress to the next phase or risking identity crisis and related problems. Here is a more elaborated and modernized description of the challenges that have to be met, the virtues to be developed or […]

More About The Connection Between Parenting & Understanding Of Feelings and Self

Important first dimensions of feelings are how we come to realize that we have them when we have them and thereafter understand what they are signalling to us. These are necessary important steps for thereafter being able to take care of the related needs and hence decrease the volume of negative emotions and increase the […]

Additional Important Dimensions For Self-Esteem At Work

Self-efficacy can improve self-esteem. The necessary characteristics for optimal self-efficacy changes during life mirroring the different competencies needed to function well. Last weeks’ posts hint important dimensions we can add to our lives to increase our self-efficacy, namely, the importance of: -Curiosity –Exploration and play – Role models thinking and behavior –The learning environment Today continues on the […]

Two Common Thought Traps to Avoid For A Healthy Reasoning

There are many anxiety inducing patterns often called cognitive distortions or thought traps. These are ways of thinking that seem true but are in fact not reasonable, realistic or relevant to the situation. Noticing when we are using thought traps and countering them is an important part of traditional CBT-exercises according to Aaron and Burns […]

How Acceptance, ACT, Can Help You With Your Problems

Acceptance and commitment-therapy, ACT, is one of two major parallel developments from the mindfulness movement. The aim of the exercises is to stop avoiding, denying and struggling with inner emotions and uncomfortable thoughts, but instead accept these as appropriate responses to certain, often unavoidable, situations. ACT focuses on that we have to make necessary changes […]

Are Exhausted People In Reality Happy, Curious And Easily Excited?

Today’s post is about the driving forces behind these emotions and how they can contribute to stress and exhaustion.   There are many factors that make exhausted persons easily become too active when they are trying to heal their stress injuries. This can delay the healing process and prolong the suffering.   In earlier posts […]